What's the saying(?): "You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family...unless you're a part of DCFC."

Your history sounds heavily baggaged and reads like it has come home to roost. All the cliches aside; I wouldn't come here to the boards to ask for guidance, I would go to a professional counselor for direction. I don't want to see your dilemma end up with possible violence from some quarter; with you ending up being a story on Nancy Grace.